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Tertiary Gain and Ecology Check.

Tertiary Gain and Ecology Check.
Tertiary gain is an interesting subject that often raises its ugly head in therapy and personal change work.

So what is it.
Well simply put it is when someone other than you has a benefit in you keeping your problem.
Is profiting in some way from you.
If you stay as your are, they profit and win.
If and when you make the change, they loose.
It is often found in families and friends and if you have decided to transform yourself and become someone different it will be something that you will have to look out for.

Sometimes in NLP it is called an ecology check.
Who will be effected by what you want to do?
How can you inoculate against it?
What other changes will you have to make?

These are important things to consider if you want to increase your chances of success.

Often the other people involved will have little knowledge of what they are doing, as they may be driven by totally unconscious motivations that are unknown to them, although many people have made the conscious deceasing to use tertiary gain to there advantage.

An example of this is what are called "cash cows" well known in the social service industry. This is when someone is kept as a victim and power that they have is reduced due to the benefits the "other " will receive.

Other examples may be a partner, parent, loved one or family member, or even your boss. Who up until now because of your problem derives some financial, emotional or ego based benefits, that otherwise they will not get, if you change.

When you attempt to change or remove your problem you may well come up against massive resistance to it. People around you may experience fear, anxiety,worry and panic due to the loss they will experience, and they may attempt to hold you back and do anything to stop you.