At cause or effect in your life.
Are you living at cause or at effect in your life? It is something to be aware of, as it has in the past influenced how your life now is. How wealthy, happy, contented, successful you are and will be in your future.
If this does not sound like you. It has determined how stressed, unhappy, miserable you are and the quality of all the relationships you have, and how your respond to them.
Many powerful and wealthy personal trainers, teachers coaches and many others in the alternative community do say that " you are totally responsible for all of the events in your life all of the time"
I personally do not hold with that idea as some things are outside our control. Earthquakes, tidal waves, sunrise, astroids, volcanos, you get the idea.
However I do hold with the idea that we are personally responsible for the lives we create and how we think, feel and what we are and how we are becoming.
Being at cause in your life is all about personal choice and power and doing what is necessary to get what we want.
We may not always be responsible for what happens to us, however we are in the driving seat for what we do next and what choices we make. How we deal with it, what we have to learn, what we have to do.
Living at effect is a totally different thing and a very unpleasant way to live, although some people do seam to enjoy it. Otherwise they would be different.
Living at effect is to live a power-less miserable life. A life when you think and feel you have few options, little power and people and circumstances do things to you.
People who live this way often blame circumstances and the past for how they are.
"I did not have the opportunities".
"If only I had".
"I did not get the education".
"I never had the opportunities".
"My parents did ??????".
"My parents did not ????????".
"I was never ?????????"
Often they also believe that other people are responsible for there feelings.
Other people make them happy or sad or miserable. It is very common for them to say things like.
"You made me do it".
"You made me angry".
"You are pissing me off".
"They upset me".
"They hurt my feelings".
"If you loved me you would make me happy".
People like this are often victims. Victims of themselves.
If you place the responsibility for how you feel on other people you you will always have emotional problems and glitches and difficulty with relationships.
If you expect other people to make you happy, then you are at effect or a victim of circumstances. And not much fun for people to be around. Believing that someone else is in charge for your emotions or making them responsible for your happiness or your moods is very short sighted.
However living at cause, well that is a totally different thing. Does it mean that it will never "hit the fan". No. What it does do is give you some very powerful and effective tools and ways to get out of the problem very fast. It allows you to make choices and make things happen around you.
It allows you to decide how you will feel and what you will do next, the quality of your life improves. So do you want to live at cause or effect?