Is Your Girlfriend Putting You Under Pressure To Get Married?

Is Your Girlfriend Putting You Under Pressure To Get Married?

Many men are under pressure to get married. The pressure can come from.
• Your parents want grandchildren.
• Your family wants the family name to continue.
• Your friends want you to tie the knot.
• Social pressure society expects it from you.
• Your girlfriend wants children.
• Your girlfriend’s biological clock is ticking.

The thing to realise is that you must want to get married and for your own reasons that you have carefully thought through and you have discussed with your future partner in depth.

Marriage can be the sweetest thing and brings many advantages and benefits to both partners, but only when you have both chosen the reasons to get married.

Many people get married for the wrong reasons and the divorce courts and doctor’s surgeries are littered with people who got married for the wrong reasons, and being pressurised into marriage is the wrong reasons to do it.

Let’s look at some of these.

Your parents want grandchildren.
This is understandable, however just because parents want grandchildren is no reason to have them. Grandparents can always give the children back you will not be able to give your children back. With the divorce rate running at 54% there is a very good chance that the grandparents may not see the children after a few years.

Our parents some times also want us to have children as a way of exerting power on our relationships. Watch out for this manipulation.


Your friends want you to tie the knot.
Many women are raised with the notion that the wedding day is there big day. Forget the man he is just along for the ride.
If you are under pressure from your friends to get married you need to consider carefully there advice.
When you listen to a group of women discussing a wedding, you may be surprised at what they discuss, and how excited they become over the big party.

Your girlfriend wants children.
This can be one of the biggest reasons you may be pressurised into marriage.
This is very common; you have been in the relationship for some time, and your lady decides that she would like your children.

Now if you have made the decision that you would also like children, and you have researched the subject thoroughly, and you have the skills and maturity, and if your relationship is very strong.

Marriage and children is a good idea, if you have decided you want it.
Remember the next 20 years of your life is at stake. You must want to do this.

If however, the following has happened. Do some serous thinking.

• Partner is putting pressure on you to get married.
• Partner uses ultimatums.
• Partner threatens to end the relationship.
• Partner uses sex as a tool of manipulation.
• Partner uses mind games
• Partner uses social pressure
• Partner gets pregnant

These are danger signals that you owe it to your self to look at this relationship with your eyes open.

Your girlfriend’s biological clock is ticking.
This is a tricky one, if you love the woman and the relationship is fantastic, and you want kids go for it.

However, if you do not yet want children, your girlfriend’s biological clock ticking is not a good enough reason to get married.
Her clock is ticking not yours, if your lady wants kids and you do not then the subject needs to be discussed in a mature and adult way. If it ends up that, your partner decides to end the relationship then it may not have worked out any way.

I well remember a gentleman who got married and after two children, he was persuaded to have a vasectomy by his wife.
Sex stopped after he came out of hospital, the woman had her kids and now he was safe she took away the only good thing in his life.

Marriage can be great wonderful and magical, when you have the right partner and you have chosen her for the correct reasons.

Being pressurised into marriage is not one of them.

© Paul Hastings 2006

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