Are you in control of your relationship?
Are you in control of your relationship?
Many women take advantage of there boy friends and end up controlling him.
And it is the man’s fault.
Are you in a bad relationship with a woman?
- Does your girlfriend or worse you wife do any of the following
- Complains a lot
- With holds sex to get her own way
- Emotionally freezes you out.
- Is Very High Maintenance and costs you a fortune.
- She has trouble compromising.
- She is often bitter or angry.
- She doesn't do as she says.
- Complains about you in public.
Well sorry but you are to blame.
You have encouraged and supported this behavior in the past; you rewarded her behavior and encouraged this habit to develop.
May be you took on a girlfriend knowing she was like this and by staying in the relationship developed her nasty habits further. Due to your own insecurities and weakness.
If a woman notices a weakness in your personality she will exploit it, they are always testing to see what they can get away with.
Survival of her and any possible children depends on a strong man who will provide for her and the children, so a woman needs to see if you match up to this image. This is totally understandable and natural from her point of view.
And if you do not she will make your life hell.
It is called being pussy whipped.
Lets get real a man like this really does not deserve respect by any woman.
So How might this have happened?
You are insecure.
In the beginning of the relationship you puberty supplicated, did what she wanted all the time, bought her presents and paid for most things, because you believed this was the right thing to do. You did what she wanted so as not to displease her .Once you showed this side of your nature the woman would take advantage and end up displeasing you.
She can herself feel as if she is in a relationship with a loser, who pays for stuff and she may have become dependent on you for her amusement, many women have a boy friend just so she, does not feel left out or just has some one to dump, for her own ego.
It is not really her fault she is just responding to the rules you have set up, or allowed to be there.
There is also a very good chance that this behavior is because of her past conditioning with other men, so you may have inherited some one else’s problem. Not a good idea.
Avoid being in this position at all costs.
- Let us look at some possibilities.
- A woman does not learn these behaviours on her own.
- Part of it might have been learnt from her parents.
- Mum may have treated her father in this way, or she may have been raised as most girls are these days.
- As a princess, always being told how lovely she is, that she can be anything she wants.
- When she gets in to the real world these beliefs do not match up to what she has been told.
She can become spoilt and bitchy behaviour goes un disciplined.
Remember many girls around puberty learn to manipulate boys.
I well remember my daughter at 14, overjoyed by the idea that her boy friend was waiting for her to call one night.
She was not going to call and was going out.
I asked her. Why?
She said “I know he is sitting there all night waiting for me to call, I have the power”.
Guess what she milked that spineless wimp for all she could, and he never got laid,
I used this opportunity to ask her and her friends about there behavior, they all were playing power games with the boys.
So what can you do if you are in this situation?
This is a wonder full opportunity to turn your emotional and sex life around.
Realise that it is time for you to grow up and take responsibility for your life, and who you share your life with.
- Explore what you want in a relationship
- How you want to be treated.
- How you are going to behave.
- What you will accept and what you will no longer tolerate in your life.
Many men have challenges with this due too the realization that they have emotional insecurities and weakness.
- Learn, Get your self-sorted and learn how women operate.
- How there minds work, as well as your own.
- Learn how to stand up for your self with out being abusive violent or nasty.
- Except responsibility for your situation and learn.
Major Mark does a wonderful video course called “How to build a better girlfriend”.
I recommend it and I get no kick backs from Mark.
You might also consider a hypnotist or Neuro Linguistic Programmer who explores this area of human nature.
It is time to grow and change.
The quality of your life will improve and so will your relationships with women.
You deserve this and so do they.
© Paul Hastings 2006
Real Smart Hypnosis - Hypnosis Hypnotherapy Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Huna from an exclusive successful practice in Leamington Spa Warwickshire UK Real Smart Hypnosis offers you a highly professional effective and individual service.
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